" For many people it 's not , " she conceded , but added that they " don 't get to define my gayness for me . "

她承认“对于很多人来说并不是这样的”，并且还补充道“他们是不会理解同性恋对我来说意味着什么。”

I understand that for many people it 's not , but for me it 's a choice , and you don 't get to define my gayness for me .

我理解对很多人来说，这不是选择，但对我来说，这就是；而且，你不能代替我定义我的同性恋行为。