It 's also why our defensiveness is so predictable and so counterproductive .

这也是为什么我们的防御性如此的可预见，如此的适得其反。

Similarly , it has been found that people low in defensiveness have more experiences of love than do highly defensive people .

同样地，已经发现防御性低的人比高防御性的人有更多爱的体验。

The study of defensiveness and stress was carried out at the montreal heart institute , where researchers evaluated 81 men and 118 women aged 20 to 64 years .

这项有关防御性和压力的研究是由蒙特利尔心脏学院展开的，研究人员对20岁至64岁之间的81位男性和118位女性进行了调查评估。

If you let go of the need to respond , you 'll reduce your defensiveness and give yourself space to really listen .

如果你放开回应的需要，你会减少自己的防御性然后能够给出自己空间真正聆听。

At face value - if seen purely in terms of defensiveness - the response among the men doesn 't seem to make a lot of sense .

从表面上看如果单纯只看防御性男性测试的结果并没有太大意义。